Tombstone the remaining forget paths (close the immutability arc)

Phase 1 tombstoned memory/delete + node/delete, but the generic forget
path was still destructive. This routes every forget through the same
tombstone semantics so nothing in the daemon can hard-delete an engram
node anymore.

Canonical helper: mem_tombstone (memory.el, imported first so every module
can call it) — keep the node + its edges, record a Tombstone marker, never
engram_forget. neuron-api's tombstone_node now delegates to it (single
source of truth).

Per-path before -> after:
- memory.el `mem_forget`      hard delete (engram_forget) -> tombstone. This
  alone fixes both callers: the /api/neuron/memory/forget route
  (handle_api_forget) and the cultivate op=="forget".
- awareness.el autonomous `forget` action  engram_forget -> mem_tombstone.
  The soul can no longer autonomously hard-delete a memory.
- mcp-wrapper tool_forget  was a FAKE no-op that returned {"ok","deleted"}
  without deleting OR tombstoning -> now routes to the soul's tombstoning
  /api/neuron/memory/delete; tool description fixed to say it
  supersedes/tombstones (recoverable), not "Remove a node".

Left intentionally as hard deletes (internal GC / lifecycle, not user
memory, all call engram_forget directly): session-summary replace
(chat.el), mem_consolidate dedup (memory.el), session-start telemetry
pruning (soul.el), session lifecycle (sessions.el).

Regenerated both ship paths under a 3GB physical-RSS watchdog (peak ~32MB):
dist/soul.c (single-TU amalgamation, macOS/Linux) and the per-module
dist/{memory,awareness,neuron-api}.c (Windows/Linux build). Verified: no
forget handler calls engram_forget; a forget leaves the node present +
tombstone marker. Gate (neuron-ui verify-soul-contract.sh, new memory-forget
row): PRESENCE + IMMUTABILITY PASS.

dist/neuron-api.c

@@ -10,6 +10,7 @@ el_val_t mem_remember(el_val_t content, el_val_t tags);
 el_val_t mem_recall(el_val_t query, el_val_t depth);
 el_val_t mem_search(el_val_t query, el_val_t limit);
 el_val_t mem_strengthen(el_val_t node_id);
+el_val_t mem_tombstone(el_val_t node_id);
 el_val_t mem_forget(el_val_t node_id);
 el_val_t mem_consolidate(void);
 el_val_t mem_save(el_val_t path);
@@ -193,12 +194,7 @@ el_val_t api_not_persisted(el_val_t id) {
 }
 
 el_val_t tombstone_node(el_val_t id) {
-  el_val_t tags = EL_STR("[\"Tombstone\",\"status:deleted\"]");
-  el_val_t marker = engram_node_full(id, EL_STR("Tombstone"), el_str_concat(EL_STR("tombstone:"), id), el_from_float(0.01), el_from_float(0.01), el_from_float(1.0), EL_STR("Episodic"), tags);
-  if (!str_eq(marker, EL_STR(""))) {
-    engram_connect(marker, id, el_from_float(1.0), EL_STR("tombstones"));
-  }
-  return marker;
+  return mem_tombstone(id);
   return 0;
 }
 
@@ -613,7 +609,7 @@ el_val_t handle_api_forget(el_val_t body) {
     return api_err_protected(node_id);
   }
   mem_forget(node_id);
-  return el_str_concat(el_str_concat(EL_STR("{\"ok\":true,\"id\":\""), node_id), EL_STR("\"}"));
+  return el_str_concat(el_str_concat(EL_STR("{\"ok\":true,\"id\":\""), node_id), EL_STR("\",\"tombstoned\":true}"));
   return 0;
 }
 
@@ -717,7 +713,7 @@ el_val_t handle_api_cultivate(el_val_t body) {
       return api_err(EL_STR("id is required"));
     }
     mem_forget(node_id);
-    return el_str_concat(el_str_concat(EL_STR("{\"ok\":true,\"id\":\""), node_id), EL_STR("\",\"cultivated\":true}"));
+    return el_str_concat(el_str_concat(EL_STR("{\"ok\":true,\"id\":\""), node_id), EL_STR("\",\"tombstoned\":true,\"cultivated\":true}"));
   }
   if (str_eq(op, EL_STR("link_entities"))) {
     el_val_t from_id = json_get(body, EL_STR("from_id"));